Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Birds of a feather

Sometimes God places people in our life who are our true soul mates, kindred spirits, confidantes. When my best friend entered my life seven years ago I gave her the not-so-friendly warning, "I don't expect our friendship to last long. I never end up being friends with girls for very long." And with that rude comment our friendship was bound by the ties of irony and her heart was meshed with mine for all eternity. Right now we are both in a season of life where unexpected events have happened that are out of our control. I don't think it's any mistake that we are both coping, searching, and learning a lot these days.

My feathered friend

At my group meeting last night we discussed how we all must be complete, whole, secure individuals before we can enter into a serious relationship or marriage. We can't look for our own security in our mate. We can't look for missing pieces of ourselves in our mate. We should all attempt to be full, well-rounded individuals in the Lord before we enter into a marriage. Man can never fill those holes in our hearts where the Holy Spirit should dwell.  Someone in my group described, "In nature, one of the most frightening things you can come across is a wounded animal. When we have spiritual holes in our heart we are much like a wounded animal." To enter into a relationship as a wounded animal will only create an unstable, volatile, situation that will come to a boiling-point at some moment or another. My best friend and I are trying to use this time away from our mates as a chance to really get to know ourselves as individual, unique, whole people. 

Tonight she sent me this verse which perfectly speaks to these same themes. We both have been putting our faith in flesh for too long... 

Jeremiah 17: 5-8

 5Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD.

 6For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, in a salt land and not inhabited.

 7Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.

 8For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit

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